Depression

How you think about yourself matters. 

But it’s probably not something you pay attention to when you’re feeling self-deprecating emotions such as depression, rejection, or just playing not good enough… 

Most people would think that when you don’t feel good enough, it’s because you’re not good enough…and that’s totally untrue!

Believe it or not, negative emotions are not meant to hurt you, but rather to signal that your thoughts are not aligned with who you are and what you want. 

Here’s an example. Between thoughts a and b…. 

a) I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
b) Let me just try one more time.

Which thought would help you get out of a funk?
Which do you find more helpful?

Which one feels better? 

Obviously, it would be thought b. 

How so?

The energy of thought a) sounds like it’s coming down; while thought b) sounds slightly more uplifting, more hopeful. 

So when it comes to your emotions and your energy level, your thoughts do matter.

And when you’re criticizing yourself, self-doubting, or comparing yourself to others, you actually keep yourself in the very cycle you’re trying to get out of. 

So what to do? 

The problem is that we were not taught how to think.

Most of the time we don’t pay attention to our thoughts but rather to what we are observing… what’s going on at work, what’s happening in our relationship, what this person said about us, our financial status, what we can afford…

The focus tends to be more on the outside, rather than within. 

So one of the issues that keeps us stuck in negative emotions, is our tendency to focus on the conditions of our lives rather than how we perceive them. 

Research supports that one of the main contributing factors to depression is how we think. and when our thoughts are negative towards ourselves. 

Depression is often seen as an emotional reaction to: 

• How you feel about yourself 

• Your perceptions of your life

• How concerned you are about your future

It’s how you perceive yourself and the world around you that creates your personal experience.

And it’s understanding that you create your feelings via your perceptions that actually allows you to have greater control over how you think and feel about yourself. 

It is also a sign there is a misalignment between who you truly are and who you want to be. This split energy is really what is causing a lot of your pain. 

However, you can find some relief from depression when you learn to choose thoughts that support your well-being.

The TrueSelf Psychology® system works to help you detach from painful thoughts and help you modify your thinking to align them more with the core of who you really are with some effective alignment strategies. 

At Montreal TrueSelf Psychology® you can work with a coach or psychologist to help you feel more aligned with your authentic self by targeting those self-opposing thought patterns and developing an inner dialogue that resonates with who you are and what you want.